I have best friend who I have known for about 11 years. I know he is a Christian but we never really bothered having serious talks about religion.
One of the reasons was because he and I were both agnostics, and I was never baptized or brought up in a christian family traditions since my parent don’t go to church.
But yesterday at midnight he sent an email to everyone on his contact list, including me, saying he was no longer an agnostic and had full faith in god, saying that his relation with God has changed him a lot and helped him.
I thought good for him, it was quite a ’sensitive’ email so I did not want to comment. But at 1:00am , he called me on MSN and asked if I read the email, I said yes. But then he asked what I thought of it, and I did not know what to say, since it was on a sensitive topic and said it was ‘inspiring’.
Long story short, he said I looked ‘unconvinced’ and then he turned the conversation into what my belief in God was. Since I explained that I was agnostic and not a Christian that I had different views than him.
I for some reason asked him if I was going to hell, in which he replied ”Unless you change, then yes”, I started to get a bit freaked out and through the whole conversation at 2:00am he was saying his opinions, but putting them in a way that made it look like it was fact.
Then he said I was not ‘an extremly bad person’ as if to say I was not a good person, which hurt me a little, and then continued that I would not be accepted into heaven.
So now I’m a bit freaked out by my friend, it’s not becuase he now has full fait on God, it’s the way he seems to preeching to me, as if to say if I don’t become a Christian, believe in God and go to church then I will go to hell. I have never seen him like this and find it completly out of character.
Could anyone give me advice, becuase in the future this long friendship may be broken.
A secular friend once approached me and told me that believing in eternal judgment made me a very narrow person. I asked him, "You think I’m wrong about these religious questions, and I think you are wrong. Why does that make you as narrow as me?" He replied, "That’s different. You think we are eternally lost! We don’t think you are. That makes you more narrow than us."
I didn’t agree, and here is what I proposed to him. Both Christian and the secular person believe that self-centeredness and cruelty have very harmful consequences. Because Christians believe souls don’t die, they believe that moral and spiritual errors affect the soul forever. Liberal, secular persons also believe that there are terrible moral a spiritual errors, like exploitation and oppression.
But since they don’t believe in an afterlife, they don’t think the consequences of wrongdoing go on into eternity. Because Christians think wrongdoing has infinitely more long-term consequences than secular people do, does that mean they are somehow narrower?
Imagine two people arguing over the nature of a cookie. Bob thinks the cookie is poison, and Joe thinks it is not. Bob thinks Joe’s mistaken view of the cookie will send her to the hospital or worse. Joe thinks Bob’s mistaken view of the cookie will keep him from enjoying a fine dessert. Is Bob more narrowed-minded than Joe just because he thinks the consequences of her mistake are more dire? I do not believe anyone would think so. Therefore, Christians aren’t more narrowed because they think wrong thinking and behavior have eternal effects.
According to Christians if God were to truly give what everyone of us deserved, none of us would get to heaven. So its not surprising that your friend said an "extremely bad person." In fact, you ought to take it as a compliment because Christians believe everyone is sinful.